The rate of divorce is on the increase. Many people, including Christians, are enduring their marriage instead of enjoying them. Worst still is the rate of marriage disaffection among Christians.
Most held onto their marriage vows because of their status in the church and society. Though this group appears to be together outside, at home, they are miles apart. Amazingly, some of the people in these categories can give dumb folding, soul-lifting teaching, and talk about marriage, but the contrast is their marriage experience in the closest.
One wonders why is this happening despite obvious exposure to biblical teaching, better financial base, and high-level education. The singular reason most marriages and homes are in disarray was that they are not founded on godly marriage principles.
All other things may change, but God’s principles will not change. God gave us his principles on how to run our lives and enjoy our marriages.The first marriage recorded in the bible was between Adam and Eve. Then it was God who was both the father and mothers-in-law.
Therefore, any marriage that will stand the test of time must be such that is based and founded in God. However, the youth of this day has replaced these principles with that of their political, sport, movies, and music idols personalities and principles.
On the contrary, this more often than not the marriage of these models is a far cry from being a good example to follow. We can address this ugly trend by going back to Godly marriage guidelines in the bible. For example, if you follow these godly marriage ideas, it will not only guide you to know the will of God for marriage but also know if you are in a wrong relationship.
Every product comes with a user manual. All approved buildings have a plan. The essence of this manual is to ensure you get better service delivery. You can also consult this blueprint whenever this is malfunctioning to find the remedy.
There are marriage principles and Godly marriage principles. But if you desire the best in your marriage follow on as we explore Biblical marriage principles that guaranteed a blissful home.
- Build a good relationship with your spiritual in-law. Just as we have a physical in-law so also we have the spiritual in-law in the person of God. If you are a Christian, God is your in-law. In Genesis 24:12-14 Abraham’s servant had no personal encounter with Yahweh but rested on Abraham’s faith in God’s to pray for divine direction for finding a suitable wife for Isaac.
God is your spiritual in-law because he is the one who created the person you want to marry. Just as he gave Eve to Adam he desires to give you the right spouse that will help you to both fulfill His purpose on earth and bring joy to you.
Why do you need to build a relationship with God? First, because he has a great plan for you. Genesis 2:18. Second, He knows, the person you intend to marry more than you do. You’ll agree with me your natural in-law whose son or daughter you’re about to marry know him or her more than you. So you needed God who knows every mankind, including a would-be spouse. Genesis 6:5 John 2:24. Third, he could fix any challenges that may arise in your marital relationship later in your journey Matthew 11:28-28.
How do you develop this fellowship? Prayer is one way to develop a relationship as a way of following Godly marriage principles. Eliezer the servant of Abraham prayed. You should pray as you seek God’s face for a partner. Also, as you go into a relationship, prayers must be your life wire in courtship and marriage.
Another way to get the best from Godly marriage strategies is to read the bible, God’s manual for living, and marriage. The word of God contains the standard by which Christians live their lives which may not be in tandem with the world’s standard.
- God desires that you marry a Christian. Every good parent desires a happy home for his or her children, and Abraham was not an exception. Mind you, following the g Godly pattern for your marriage, may not be easy at a time like this when youth sees their parents’ Biblical principles as absurd and obsolete.
It’s easier to follow the trend than swimming against the tides. Abraham’s servant also struggles with this in his statement “the servant asked him, “What if the woman is unwilling to come back with me to this land? Shall I then take your son back to the country you came from”? But Abraham insisted and even place Eliezer under oath.
This is not the same thing as marriage matches making. You’ll see Abraham never mentioned a specific lady. Also, Rebecca’s father sought her approval. If you marry an unbeliever, Satan will be your in-law. One of the commandments of unequally yoke with the unbeliever is marriage. Never succumb to pressure to marry a non-Christian.
Though you may claim a few of such unholy union succeeded, but ask those that fail. Their experiences are better imagined than experienced. The world is not that bad that you will not get your spouse. So wait for your turn.
- Build relationships naturally. Every happy marriage started on natural relationships. Children of God should radiate friendship anywhere you find them. Friendliness apart from being one of the Godly marriage principles works in all kinds of relationships. You can’t tell if the person you met in the mall, cab, coffee shop, gas station, football pitch, saloon, etc., would be your husband or wife.
I heard a story about a lady who was going for a job interview. She was harsh and abusive when she had issues with a man on the public bus. She performed brilliantly well in the written and oral interview. But when they brought in the man to accent to her appointment, it was the man she has insulted hours earlier. Without me telling you the end of the story you know she missed the job.
Abraham’s servant began the relationship with a request from Rebecca. And she responded cheerfully and in a respectful manner to a total stranger. Unknown to her, this stranger will facilitate her marriage to Isaac.
From her statement later Genesis 24:57-58, it’s was obvious she’s been longing for marriage. Well, she didn’t know that one good deed will seal her prayer and expectation on marriage. In essence, the devil or demons was not behind the marital delay as some youth claimed, but their hostile attitude to things and people. The words of Paul in Philippians 1:27 hold sway for any child of God. Don’t forget he wrote this while in prison.
What you are doing is complicating your situation and driving away your would-be helpers whenever you vent your anger, frustration on people around you. You may not need a prayer of deliverance, but attitudinal change to get your desired spouse.
- Be specific on your choice. I must point out here that God is not your rubber stamp. If you are sure of what you need, you will know it when you find it.
Adam knew his need. He knew something is not just right about his relationship with these beings (animals) in the garden. His statement reveals that and Adam said, “this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman because she was taken out of Man” Genesis 2:23.
Abraham’s servant was not mistaken in his choice for his master’s son (Isaac). Indeed, when Rebecca displayed those attributes the servant didn’t waste time but did the needful. Among Godly marriage, strategies are to be specific about the type of man or woman you’ll like to marry.
In the encounter between Rebecca and Abraham’s servant, three principles or virtues appeared. These are basic Godly behavior every child of God should exhibit. They are Spiritual compatibility, hard work, and friendliness.
Apart from the other attributes, the mentioned qualities should be obvious in the man or woman you wish to marry. Let’s check the attributes of Rebecca that reflected the mentioned virtues. One, she welcomes and entertained a total stranger with a smile and courtesy (friendliness and hospitality).
Two, she was willing to serve not only Eliezer but to water all the animals. I hope you realize what it takes to water a single camel, but now ten camels. Note not by a man, but a young lady (industry)
Third, she was willing to follow this stranger to a far and unknown land simply because the man claimed to be Abraham’s servant the progenitor of the Jews (Spiritual compatibility). This shows she has found someone with spiritual compatibility.
Mind you, if she had never learned history and be familiar with her family antecedent she may not know where Eliezer came from. I am amazed at how many youths who do not know the core values of Christianity or the fundamental beliefs of their denomination. For that reason, it will be out of place for a Christian contemplating marrying an unbeliever under whatever guise.
- Confirm your choice: Among the listed Godly marriage strategies, you must not miss is this one. Cultivate the attitude of building intimacy. Some areas of life may be compromised, but not God’s standard for marriage.
If you hope to enjoy the best in your marriage, you must not omit this. Though I am not an advocate of the long period of courtship, yet I expect you to make the best use of the period no matter how short.
This is the courtship period. Courtship period is the time to watch, ask questions, Speak up. The period of courtship is a time for discovery, discussion, and decision.
The first response of Abraham’s servant after making his request to Rebecca was to wait and see if God answered his prayers.
At this time you’re to confirm whether God answered your prayers about your choice of a spouse or not. It is the period to do more of listening than talking However, it is not the period to be too emotional and sentimental. You should be your real self.
Let your partner know your level of compromise. The following issues must be freely and honestly discussed: financial matters, personal plans, number of children, relationships with extended family members, and service to God, etc.
The world standard is always at variance with the basic Godly marriage principles. Yet the best for your marriage is to follow God’s standard. Marriages fall or stand on these often neglected principles.
How much have learned through this post to prepare for a blissful marriage? Which area of your life did you need to adjust to fit into these basic Godly marriage principles? Please add any other principle you think I omitted.
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